Don’t stalk him or her
We understand that you want to find out how he’s doing. However, stalking his/her Facebook or Instagram page is just going to make you feel worse when you find out that he is all smiles in his photos, or worse, behaving intimately with people of the opposite sex.
Don’t get into a new relationship so quickly
You might have that one person whom you know have been waiting for you all along. This is the perfect opportunity to hook up with that person, who is probably also super willing. But there was a reason why you didn’t break up with your ex over him/her in the first place, so don’t rush into it.
Don’t actively look for a new relationship
Don’t actively look for a rebound, or even randomly hook up. Rebound relationships or sex is not going to solve your heartbreak. If anything, it’s going to remind you of your ex constantly if you are still hung up over your ex.
Don’t get drunk
Getting drunk and forgetting all your sadness might sound like a good idea, but you will regret it when you wake up with BOTH a hangover AND those shitty feelings. Also, you run the risk of drunk-texting or calling your ex and embarrassing yourself thoroughly.
Don’t text or call your ex
Whether sober or drunk, do not communicate with your ex. If you were the one who initiated the break-up, it makes you look wishy-washy and regretful. Otherwise, it just makes you look desperate. A face-to-face meeting after a cooling-off period will be the best.
Don’t publicise it
Don’t complain or announce your change in relationship status on Facebook. It’s just going to invite more questions and give you more heartbreak. Also, it makes you look like an attention-seeking sourpuss.
Don’t constantly complain to your friends
Again, complaining doesn’t help with anything, except constantly reminding you of what could have been. Seek advice and support from your friends, but don’t turn it into a bitching session.
Don’t hold on to memorabilia
You might think that you would regret it in future, but no. Keeping old love letters is going to make it emotionally hard for you to detach yourself from your ex.
Don’t try to seek revenge
This is probably the biggest no-no. Don’t seek revenge for his cheating or lying. That’s stooping down to his level. Be the bigger person and graciously let it go. The or sweetest revenge is becoming a better person than he is or will ever be.
Don’t isolate yourself
Breaking up is not the end of the world. You still have your loved ones such as your families and friends. These are the most important people at the moment, and the fact that they are here to support you should give you the energy you need to continue living life to the fullest.